Is He Going To Call?

"Is he going to call?" It seems to be the question on most single girls mind's my age who have just given out their phone number to a cute guy they met the day before. For me, this was the case just a few weeks ago...

I had just gone out with some friends and stopped at a party for a little while. A guy came up to me and we began talking. We had a decent conversation for the setting we were in. I didn't think it was a big deal, just a casual talk with someone new. But before I knew it he was asking me for my phone number, and I just stood there watching him punch into his iPhone. Then, he called my phone so I could add him to my contact list. I convinced myself later on there must have been some sort of "connection" or else he wouldn't have asked me for my number.

The next day I sat and contemplated...repeating over and over again the scene from the night before in my head. Questions were constantly coming to my mind. "Is he going to call?" "Why would he take the time to ask for my number if he isn't going to call?" "Should I call him?" "Is it okay for me to add him to Facebook, or is that too weird?"

As the weekend passed it hit me that he wasn't going to call. He didn't even care. It wasn't so much of him not calling that pissed me off. It was the fact that he had asked for my number. To all of the guys in the class, "Why even ask for a girls number if you already know you aren't going to call her?" In my mind it is just a waste of both people's time.

After reading "Making the connection: Single women's use of the telephone in dating relationships with men," I realized that the telephone is a piece of technology that can be used as an excuse. I agree that the power lies in the hands of the most disinterested party. In our societal world, the telephone can get you in and out of situations you do and don't want to be in.