Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

I really enjoyed this reading making the Connection: Single Women's Use of the Telephone in Dating Relationships With Men. I guess becuase I'm a single woman, the article title drew my attention right away.

It was really fun to read about how technology changed our way of datings as well.

As I kept reading, I realized even people in a different culture a decade ago shows the similarity on how they use when they date with someon--waiting him to call me and getting angry if he doesn’t. I used to hear often my friends sighing because of that too.

There are cultural differences between Korea and the U.S. on regarding to phone use. It’s like a rule among us, girls. I don’t remember them all, but I can give a couple of them.

Here is a females' rule:

1. Do not answer the phone at least twice so that you can pretend you were not waiting for his call. Men never give food to HIS fish. What it means is that when men think his girlfriend loves him more, they don't try hard to develop their relationship better. (Not everyman in Korea is like that though.) So, it is one way to control him at the beginning of their relationship. However, if he doen't call at the third time, women get angry and regret.

2. Do not answer the phone on the night when you go to a nightclub with your female friends. Sometiomes you have a girls’ night with only your female friends. You have to hang out with your friends also and you go to a club and meet new faces. But as you get to the club, the phone rings in your bag. He keeps calling you. Noisy music around, people shouting. If you answer the phone, he will definately know where you are. So, do not answer the phone! Just tell him that you went to bed early the next day.

It’s not something about the phone, but I quite often hear from friends that she always logs in his social networking sites with his password and checks her boyfriends’ emails. Sometimes they use GPA system on cellphone, so that they can track down where he is and make sure if he is not cheating on me.

I think distrust is one thing that comes to the surface in the interpersonal relationship thanks to technologies. I don't know if there were more distrust between lovers in the period without technologies or not. But I think we can notice if he or she cheats on the other in the relationship easily.